We all know that we have some good days and some times we have bad ones. We are in a bad mood or something upsets us. We also know that we would hope others would either lend us a hand, help us in some way. Even offer some advice. Most of all sometimes we just need to be given room, to breathe, adjust, relax, regroup. Whatever it may be...
We may be good at it with strangers. At the store we are willing to let someone go ahead in line, or understanding someones frustration in passing. We don't know that person, we haven't invested any time and may even look like the Good Samaritan when it comes to those outside our home that we are willing to help for "a moment".
But...then we get home, close the door and I know I've been guilty of it...I have very little patience with the "human" side of those I live with. I usually don't take into consideration whether my kids may have had a rough day or had their feelings hurt, I just want them to listen. I may not consider that they need something to get their minds occupied or run around to get the jitters out, I just want some peace and quiet. My husband may come home frustrated or tired from work. Things may be piling up around me and I just want some help. But what I need to do is give them room.
You know it may seem like something so simple but sometimes in a particular moment, it's not. I'm realizing that there are some patterns in our family dynamic that I'm wanting to change. In the long run giving other room will improve my own stress and sanity, it can also improve our communication with each other. We all have moments when we need to be able to be "human" and one day I'm gonna need someone to give me some room as well!
